There are many things that you can do to strengthen your relationships. Often the most effective thing you can do involves saying just three words. When spoken sincerely, these statements often have the power to develop new friendships, deepen old ones and even bring healing to relationships that have soured.

The following three-word phrases can be tools to help develop every relationship.

1.Let me help
Good friends see a need and then try to fill it. When they see a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they jump in and help out.

2.  I understand you.
People become closer and enjoy each other more when the other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know - in so many  little ways - that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship. And this can apply to any relationship.
3.  I respect you
Respect is another way of showing love. Respect demonstrates that another person is a true equal.  If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds and become closer friends.  This applies to all interpersonal relationships.

4.  I miss you.
Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples simply and sincerely said to each other "I miss you."  This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved.  Consider how important you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say "I miss you."

5.  Maybe you're right.
This phrase is very effective in diffusing an argument.  The implication when you say "maybe you're right" is the humility of admitting, "maybe  I'm wrong".  Let's face it.  When you have an argument with someone,  all you normally do is solidify the other person's point of view. They, or you, will not likely change their position and you run the risk of seriously  damaging the relationship between you.  Saying "maybe you're right" can open the door to explore the subject more.  You may then have the opportunity to express your view in a way that is understandable to the other person. 


rozeeta rashid said...

true indeed! we need to say all these 3 words more often! =)

Fairuz Fazilah said...

yeah sweety -.-